Feel Good Fridays

August 2019 calendar with the 16th circled

And now August is officially half-way over. Already! Where is 2019 going?!? Well, happy Friday!

Years and years and years ago, I purchased a little book from Barnes & Noble. I no longer have a copy of it, but may need to purchase it again. It changed my life. Well, it changed my perspective on my life.

And I forgot alllllll about it, until I went scouring the internet for today’s quote:

“True happiness comes not when we get rid of all of our problems,but when we change our relationship to them, when we see our problems as a potential source of awakening, opportunities to practice, and to learn.”
― Richard Carlson, Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff … and it’s all small stuff: Simple Ways to Keep the Little Things from Taking Over Your Life

I think I’m gonna go hit a used bookstore online and pick up a copy right now. What other nuggets of perspective-changing wisdom have I forgotten? Have you read the book and do you have a favorite blurb? Share it in the comments below.

And, most importantly, have a wonderful weekend.

Love, Lisa

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Sandwich with pickle spear on a table with a potted succulent

Another week has blown by and I find myself mentally wiped from an emotional week.

Unable to find an inspiring quote on my own, I enlisted the help of a friend I’ve yet to meet: Holly. We “met” over Yelp reviews of our favorite sandwich company here in San Diego. My favorite is the Charlie’s Special and hers is the simple, tried and true Ham & Cheese sandwich. We message a few times a month and she’s wonderful and always makes me smile.

So, I asked if she had a favorite and she has given me this one to share with you you today:

“If you find yourself constantly trying to prove your worth to someone, you have already forgotten your value.” ~Unknown

Thank you, Holly.

This jettisoned me right back to a time in my life where I was wrapped up in an abusive relationship with a man who constantly accused me of cheating on him, always called me “whore” when he was angry, and went so far as choking me when we woke up one morning (on my birthday) because he dreamt I had an affair. And he only liked brand-name clothing, which I hated. But, to please him, I purchased myself (and him) brand name clothes. And went so far as to wear bras on the weekends because he hated my boobs bouncing for the world to see. I completely changed who I was, but convinced myself life was happier because I was with him. I wasn’t. And after about six months of dating, I left him simply because he called me whore one more time. And I slowly regained my confidence, self-worth, and sense of “me” again.

Whenever my cousin, Aaron, gives me a hug he whispers into my ear, “You be good to you.” Typing it doesn’t give it justice: his tone, inflection, and cadence give it so much more life and depth. But may we never forget it.

So, never change who you are for someone. Never feel like you must constantly prove yourself. Just be. And if YOU are not enough to please someone, move on. Never lose yourself.

Ever.

Love, Lisa

Feel Good Fridays

A woman handing out free hugs
One day I’d love to do this. “Free Hugs” by Matthew G.

Friday. What a rough week.

Last night I went to dinner with Brandy, one of my local EndoSisters and one hellava Warrior. It was wonderful.

And after a few hours of talking, catching up, dumping out our hearts, and encouraging one another, we left after several hugs.

So, today’s quote:

“Some moments can only be cured with a big squishy grandma hug.” 

― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing

They say laughter is the best medicine, but it’s not. Not for me. Hugs truly are. Good, long, warm, 100% legit hugs. Maybe that’s why I love Burning Man so much: endless, amazing hugs from so many strangers. Unencumbered, uninhibited, pure loving hugs.

And the long talk last night really made me feel better about so many things, too.

What lifts your spirits in times of darkness? Drop a comment below.

Blogs I Updated This Week:

Endometriosis & the Appendix: added two studies from July 2019 of women who had various symptoms and discovered during after their surgeries that they had Endometriosis on their appendix.

What Does Endometriosis Pain Feel Like: I added more entries from EndoWarriors describing what Endometriosis feels like to them. Would you like to share yours? Go ahead! There’s an entry form on the blog entry.

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Group shot of 2019 Bloomin' Uterus Endometriosis Walk; San Diego, CA
2019 Bloomin’ Uterus Endometriosis Walk; San Diego, CA

And suddenly, just like that, it’s Friday already!

Today’s quote is for my fellow Warriors. This one, right here, is for YOU:

“Even in times of trauma, we try to maintain a sense of normality until we no longer can. That, my friends, is called surviving. Not healing. We never become whole again … we are survivors. If you are here today… you are a survivor. But those of us who have made it thru hell and are still standing? We bare a different name: warriors.” 

― Lori Goodwin

Remember how strong you are. How far you’ve come. How much you’ve endured. But, most importantly, understand that you are flanked by your fellow Warriors, standing side by side, hand in hand. You are not alone in this fight.

Maintain strength, even in the scary moments. And, if you need it, reach out for the Warrior beside you. ❤

Love, Lisa

Blogs I Updated This Week:

Bladder & Endometriosis: added a 2019 study of a woman who complained of menstrual cramps, painful urination, and an inability to hold her pee in. Guess where they found Endo? Yep, I know it’s rare, but it happens.

Endometriosis & the Bowel: added a 2019 study of a 35-year-old woman who had complaints of abdominal pain, bloating, constipation, and cyclical rectal bleeding. They thought she had a possible carcinoma inside her guts, but it turned out to be (you guessed it), Endometriosis.

Endometriosis & the Lungs: added a 2019 study of a 37-year-old woman who ended up having Endometriosis inside her lungs along the pleura lining. Her surgeons were able to successfully excise the lesions and she was sypmtom-free nearly three years later.

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30-day challenge calendar

A good friend of mine announced the other day that she was planning on giving up all meat and dairy for the next 30 days. You don’t have to have Endo to give up these things and feel the benefits!

I hopped on her bandwagon. I mean, I’d previously given up *most* red meat and dairy…but I have my weaknesses with bison, bacon, pork, cheeeeeeeeese, whipped cream, butter…

We are on Day Three today. and I must say it’s been fun. Hard, but fun.

Day One was a doozy: some of my EndoSisters and I went to dinner at a local favorite: Buckboard’s BBQ. Meat. And Cheese. My usual: pork belly sliders and a side of some of the best mac&cheese you’ll ever taste. I resisted and opted instead for the veggie burger. And oh, man, I’ve never been offered so many mac&cheese balls in my life. And I have chicken, fish, corndogs, fishsticks, and pork chops in the freezer just begging to be eaten. I’m not even gonna talk about the bacon…

It’s also led me to do a bunch of research on how to make sure I get adequate protein, especially since my body still can’t process beans, and I avoid soy like it’s death. A challenge, but totally do-able.

And it’s been fun sharing our meals with each other and discussing creative ways that we’ve avoided meat and dairy. Oh the discoveries! Endo or no Endo, these are two good things to try to give up and see how your body handles the change

27 days to go; we can do this! Which leads to today’s quote:

“Embrace each challenge in your life as an opportunity for self-transformation.” 

― Bernie Siegel


What about you? What challenges are you facing? You CAN do it, too. Whatever it may be. And you most certainly are not facing them alone. We’re all right here with you.

Have a wonderful weekend! Love, Lisa.

Feel Good Fridays

Desert Tortoise crossing roadway, by Brad Sutton/NPS
Desert Tortoise crossing roadway, by Brad Sutton/NPS

Happy Friday!

I know a lot of my friends have had a rough week. Pain. Cancelled plans. Lots of self-care. Today is for you:

“It does not matter how slow you go as long as you do not stop.” ~Confucius

One foot in front of the other. Or, just stand still…for a moment. Then, keep forging ahead. And if you need it, reach your hand out. I’ll take it and we shall walk together.

Love you guys. Have a great weekend. ~Lisa

Blogs I Added This Week:

New Study: Elagolix vs. Lupron: Abbvie’s findings of which of their two drugs will be more cost effective for patients…(insert grumble here)

Blogs I Updated This Week:

Orilissa: Abbvie’s New Drug: added a June 2019 study showing women no Elagolix/Orilissa had improved work attendance (an extra 2-4 hours per week)

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Inviting couch

The end of the week already? And June will be done before we know it?!?

Today’s quote is a simple reminder:

“As important as it is to have a plan for doing work, it is perhaps more important to have a plan for rest, relaxation, self-care, and sleep.” 
― Akiroq Brost

Do not forget to find time during your busy week to do…simply nothing. Rest. Relax. Breathe. Take care of yourself. (Please)

Much love to you! ~Lisa

Feel Good Fridays

Back of Lisa's Endometriosis Journey tank top which shows each year of surgery and where endo was found
Back of shirt

As is my customary Friday morning tradition, I found myself back at my favorite bagel place for my breakfast and an almond milk hot chocolate. As I waited for my wares, I noticed a woman waiting in line eyeballing the front of my shirt.

If you haven’t seen the front, it’s a wonderful design, created by a friend, representing my insides after my Endo surgeries. Ha.

Front of tank top showing fun cartoon of uterus, no fallopian tubes, and a resected intestine
Front of shirt

Once she paid for her bagels, she walked right up to me with a big smile.

“I was standing in line reading the back of your shirt,” she said. “So then I had to try to read the front of your shirt to see what it is.”

“Oh?” I prodded.

“You’ve had quite the ride,” she said, with a li’l bit of sadness in her voice.

“It sure has been.”

“I’m familiar with the disease…” she said, leaving it open-ended.

Familiar? Did she have it? Does her daughter??? She looked to be in her sixties. “Are you?” I prodded further. “Do you have it?”

“No,” she smiled, “but I’m an OB nurse.”

We talked for a little while longer while we both waited for our bagel sandwiches and beverages. She seemed surprised at how extensive it could be, how entwined it can get, and how often my surgeries were warranted. I let her know that my pain levels were in a good place since my last one. She placed a warm hand on my shoulder, “I hope it stays that way.” And we said our goodbyes.

Such a wonderful way to start a Friday. And now? On to today’s Feel Good Friday’s quote:

“Finding healthy coping mechanisms are as essential as breathing fresh air

Find what works for you.

Do it with zest and fervor 

Unapologetically” 

― Renee A. Lee

For me, striking up conversations, spreading awareness about Endo, and making connections is a huge part of my coping mechanism and self-administered therapy. That being said, I know it’s not for everyone. What helps you cope? Let me know in the comments below!

I hope you have a wonderful weekend.

Love, Lisa

Blogs I Updated This Week:

Endo & Liver Function: added a 2019 study of a 42-year-old woman who complained of right quadrant pain, vomiting, and nausea. Turns out she had the super-rare Endo on the liver!

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Thunderstorm clouds on the horizon
photo by Kevin, Colorado Clouds Blog

Here we are again! A Friday! Already!!!

Earlier this week I was in a little Facebook chat bubble with one of my local EndoWarriors, Heidi. Heidi has been a HUGE part of my life since we came together and she’s a very active member of our Bloomin’ Uterus San Diego support network. She also hosts supoprt group meetings and events at her house, finds time to run our Instagram account, and is such a strong source of strength and encouragement to our Sisters! Thanks Heidi! FOR EVERYTHING!

I’ve been relishing the mostly pain-free life since my November surgery. And every little tiny prick of pain sends me deep into a “Oh no, is it coming back already?” thought process. The poor April ultrasound results don’t help and I’m eagerly awaiting the July follow-up ultrasound.

But, I ran to Heidi and we had a little conversation yesterday during a moment of doubt. Heidi has had some glorious results from pain management and physical therapy and I figured she may very know the fear I was feeling:

Text conversation with Heidi.  Me: "Do you almost fear all the shit just coming back and rendering you incapable gain?  I do." Heidi: "Oh man, yes hunny!  Every twinge of back pain makes me think it's coming back again.  It's this stormy cloud just over the horizon that's taunting me. I'm so grateful for where I'm at & I just have to remember how hard I fought to be here, & try to enjoy each moment.  We got this, & we're beasts."

See? SUPPORTIVE! Heidi is amazing. And, she’s right: WE GOT THIS AND WE’RE BEASTS!

But yesterday’s moment has led to today’s quote search. It captures the fear I have. It gives it a visual that many people can relate to; a fear that gnaws at the fiber of their being. I suffer from a painful chronic illness, and although I’m in a wonderful position right now, I still have these fears:

“That’s the point. This healthy-feeling time now just feels like a tease. Like I’m in this holding pattern, flying in smooth circles within sight of the airport, in super-comfortable first class. But I can’t enjoy the in-flight movie or free chocolate chip cookies because I know that before the airport is able to make room for us, the plane is going to run out of fuel, and we’re going to crash-land into a fiery, agonizing death.” 
― Jessica Verdi, My Life After Now

Okay, so it might be a little dramatic…but it really captured how I feel about this relentless disease. Endometriosis.

I have my Sisters, my Warriors, my Family to get me through these moments. I’ll enjoy the in-flight movie and complimentary cookies. I’ve embraced having my nights and weekends back to enjoy. And maybe…just maybe…I can acknowledge these fears when they bubble to the surface and let them go.

May we all be able to do such a thing.

Love, Lisa

PS – Heidi, I love you so very, very, very much.