Feel Good Fridays

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Happy Friday. How is another week gone already?

Where does the time go?

Today I’d like to do a little something different.

Rather than share a quote for today’s Feel Good Friday, I’d like to you (yes, YOU) to share with me and the whole internet something you truly value about your life. It could be tiny. It could be monumental. But one thing, whether it be material or emotional or a character trait…anything.

One thing that makes your life better. Or unique. Or just more valuable. Or lifts up your spirits very time you see/hear/think it.

Share away in the comments below!

Feel Good Fridays

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Good morning.

Today I’d like to share some news that has developed over the past week or so.

Do you remember the missing hiker I posted about a month ago, Derek Barge?

Well, a body was discovered in the desert by a group of hikers on August 29th. It took law enforcement a few days to retrieve it due to extreme weather conditions, and the medical office nearly a week to identify. But his family received confirmation that it was, indeed, Derek.

My heart goes out to his family and friends. People whom my husband and I have spoken with multiple times over the past month, people we have walked the desert with in search of any clues, and daresay people I have grown close to.

I am grateful for having met Derek. And I am thankful to all those who searched for him, for the Sheriff’s office’s investigation, and the hikers who discovered him. Do I have questions? Oh so many. And I will never have answers to them. And that is okay.

The greatest outcome of all of this is that there is closure of a sort. And hopefully his friends and family can find peace.

I share this with you today to remind you to, please, reach out to your friends and family. Take a moment to tell them how much they mean to you. You never, ever know when they may suddenly be gone.

The San Diego Union Tribune published a beautiful article about Derek’s life, his interests, hobbies, and brilliant career.

Rest in peace, sweet boy.

Feel Good Fridays

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Welcome to September.

I hope you’re doing well. And if you’re not doing well, I hope today can at least be better than yesterday. If you need someone to talk to, I’m always here.

Remember, it is 100%, absolutely, positively okay to rest:

“Taking breaks isn’t about cheating yourself, it’s about treating yourself.”

― Curtis Tyrone Jones

Share Your Story: Melissa Turner

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Melissa is from New Zealand and was 19 years old when she was diagnosed with Endometriosis. She shares her story with us today. As well as tips that have helped her cope and overcome.

Melissa’s Journey: It all began with a dreadful case of a bladder infection. I remember the pain like it was yesterday. Intense swelling and no amount of going to the toilet alleviated the pain.

Worst part about it was that I was on holiday and there was no way I could get treatment without the long drive home. I had never experienced such intense pain while driving over a road bump in my life. I knew something else was going on.

I remember lying in the tub. Looking down at my body and asking it what was going on. Why do you still have pain, even though the bladder infection is all cleared up? What is going on in there? A little soft voice told me to visit a gynaecologist.

The experience of visiting the gynaecologist left me with more questions and yet a version of a diagnosis I had never heard before… endometriosis. I couldn’t even say the word, never mind understand what it actually meant in terms of my pain levels. It was just a confusing mess and the only way I could know for sure was to have surgery. I dreaded the idea of it but I also wanted an answer. Something to help me move forward.

That began a long journey with endometriosis and one that took me through 15 years of struggling. I had 7 surgeries and tried every hormone treatment and pain-killer that was offered to me. I didn’t feel any relief during that time and it felt like I was literally on a surgery merry-go-round with a new surgery booked every year and a half away from the last.

I remember waking up after the last surgery and having nobody there to hold my hand and talk me through it. It had become normal that I was in surgery again. It was nothing special. I felt a deep sadness in that moment. A sadness for all the things I had put aside because of endometriosis. A sadness for all the hours and days I had wasted in pain.

A deep yearning began that day and it shifted my whole approach to endometriosis.

It began a journey of discovering and learning more about endometriosis. To know what my personal body was needing and actually providing for it. Giving it what it needed and really honouring and taking care of myself for the first time in years.

Over the last 12 years I have transformed my experience with endometriosis. It is no longer a feature in my life. I live pain and symptom free and want more women to know that it is possible.

The key things I changed were:

  • How I fed my body. I didn’t just avoid some key culprits recommended but also focused on truly replenishing the nutrients my body was lacking.
  • I move my body daily. It can be in any form I like but it must bring me joy and feel good. No pushing through!
  • Lowering my anxiety and stress was fundamental. I looked at everything that was triggering this in my life and shifted it. If that meant someone was causing me anxiety I either shifted how I viewed them or decided to spend less time with them. I also looked at beliefs I held about myself and my body. I needed to believe healing was possible and so much of my transformation began when I found proof of this.
  • I cleaned out my body from imbalances and toxins. Not just gut dysfunction but right down to heavy metals and parasites. These things had impacted my health and I needed them out!
  • I found support and guidance from others who could show me what was possible. It had to be positive and it needed to show me a way out and not just be a self pity party.

Words of Advice for Us:  I want women to know that it is possible. We just need to provide the environment for healing.

If you wish to contact Melissa, you may email her or visit her webpage.

I want to send a special Thank You out to Melissa for being brave enough to share her personal story, struggle, and victories with us today.  And thank you for all that you do for the Endo community.  Thank you!!!

And if YOU would like to share your story, please let me know.  The best part about this disease is the strong network of love and support from our fellow EndoWarriors, and our friends and family, too.

Yours, Lisa.

Feel Good Fridays

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Never forget to focus on you. Inside and out, take a moment to analyze how you feel and what you need…for you.

You matter.

Life may not be exactly where you want it to be, but hold onto what you have. And keep going!

“I used to have all of my ducks in a row. Now I’m happy to just have them in my vicinity.”

― Mommy Moo Moo

Have a beautiful weekend.

Love, Lisa

Feel Good Fridays

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Good morning.

Today’s quote is for anyone who needs these little reminders

“6 Ways To Give Your Mind A Break:

1. Stop stressing
2. Stop worrying
3. Give rest to the problems weighing you down
4. Lighten up
5. Forgive yourself
6. Forgive others”
― Germany Kent

May you find peace this weekend.

Yours, Lisa.

Feel Good Fridays

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Good morning and happy Friday. August is half-way over. Where does the time go?

Today, this is for you. If you’re in pain, if you’re hating your body, or just wanting to give up, please read on.

“Listen to me, your body is not a temple. Temples can be destroyed and desecrated. Your body is a forest – thick canopies of maple trees and sweet scented wildflowers sprouting in the underwood. You will grow back, over and over, no matter how badly you are devastated.”

~Beau Taplin

The irony of the growing back over and over on an Endometriosis blog is not lost upon me. But, please…hang on. Don’t give up. You will come back from this. Over. And over. And over. We are Warriors. And we are resilient.

I am 100% always here if you need to talk.

Love, Lisa

Feel Good Fridays

I do not feel good today. Nor have I all week.

A young man (I say young, but he’s my age) that I met on Saturday went missing late that evening. And in a very hot desert terrain. The day after his disappearance hit 112 degrees. And the following day was 110. And the official SAR efforts were called off due to the terrain and heat. It has now been 6 days since he vanished into the evening air. My statement has been given to the authorities. My husband has aided in the search last Sunday.

This weekend we will be heading back out to the area to help with the search.

Hold onto to those you cherish. Never be afraid to say I love you. Be kind to anyone you can. My heart breaks for his family.

May we find Derek alive and well elsewhere, pursuing some grand life adventure without telling anyone or having brought his possessions. Or may we find answers and closure somewhere out in my beautiful desert.

Feel Good Fridays

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July has ended. It’s over. It’s done.

Moving into August already!

I just wanted to take a moment to check in on YOU. How are you doing? How was the month for you? Any ups? Downs? Victories? Struggles?

Let me know if the comments below. We’re all here for each other. Always. In every way we can be.