I found these little pink … things … back in October 2016 when I was experience A LOT of pain with sexual intercourse. I mean, a lot. I was desperate. After reading the reviews on how many others who use Vuva Magnetic Dilators had relief from painful sex, I was hooked. But…I also couldn’t afford to purchase the kit. And, let’s face it – I had my doubts about magnets in dilators (dildos?) helping me with anything.
So, I wrote the company. Tara, the creator and founder, immediately wrote me back. She, too, suffers from Endometriosis. She also suffers from Vulvodynia and said her magnetic dilators helped her tremendously with her vaginal and pelvic pain, especially with sex! AND – she offered to send me two dilators for free because she truly believed they would help and wanted to help other’s in pain.
She didn’t ask me to write this review. I just wanted to. And…again…I still had my doubts.
But before I get into my experience, I wanted to explain a little bit about my understanding of what the Vuva Dilators are and how they are supposed to work.
A dilator looks an awful lot like a sex toy you can buy anywhere. BUT…a dilator is used for medicinal purposes and comes as a set of steadily increasing sizes/girths to help stretch the vaginal opening, or muscles inside the canal (no, I’m not good with scienc-y words). This may sound painful, but you can get dilators that are *very* small, and work your way up to something that is more comfortable (or close to the size of your partner). And it’s an incredibly slow and gradual process, stretching at your own pace, taking weeks to months. Vuva dilators are internally lined with Neodymium magnets, which supposedly help relax muscles and increase blood flow to the area. You insert one of these bad boys for 20-30 minutes each day and that’s it. There’s no stretching, no rubbing, no moving or wiggling around. Just stick it in, watch a TV show while laying on the couch, and pull it on out. *voila*
For more information, check out their webpage, which has all kinds of info on why magnets are supposed to work and testimonials.
Tara shared a study conducted by Physician Care Clinical Research comparing Vuva dilators to regular dilators. From February 2015-December 2015, a clinical study of Vuva’s effectiveness was conducted on 12 women in Florida. A year later, the final report was prepared. The 17-page report outlines the study, which was a randomized, double blind, crossover study for vulva/vaginal pain. The women had complained of ongoing vaginal/vulva pain for at least three months. Four areas were covered during the study: pain with tampon usage, pain of certain areas around the vagina via a cotton swab test, the way a woman felt emotionally about vaginal penetration, and sexual intercourse.
The study’s down and dirty after using Vuva magnetic dilators as instructed (well, my understanding):
- 90% of the women reported a decrease in pain with tampon usage. This figure is actually for women who used the Vuva Magnetic Dilators AAAANNNDD women who used the regular dilator (non-magnetic; placebo). So, using a dilator may help women who experience tampon pain. BUT, for those who used the Vuva magnetic dilators, they experienced twice the amount of pain relief than with regular dilators. Those who used the Vuva magnetic dilators experienced 30% less pain for the “tampon test.”
- The cotton swab test was gently prodding a woman around her vulva with a cotton swab and recording the pain levels. 80% of the women reported a decrease in pain levels after using the Vuva magnetic dilators. On average, 28% less pain!
- Many women who experience vulva, vaginal, or pain with sex begin to fear the act of penetration itself. All of the participants stated they had a higher sense of control and self-image.
- Each woman also kept track of their sexual intercourse, as well as any pain associated with sex. Unfortunately, half of the women didn’t have sex curing the length of the study. But for the half that did, 80% of them had sex more often than before!
BUT what about me? Ready for TMI?
Before I started the Vuva magnetic dilators, sex was uber painful. Don’t get me wrong – it can still be painful…but, we’d have sex, and it’d hurt 6-8 out of 10. And I’d cramp for several hours (sometimes even into the next day) afterward. Granted, I had my laparoscopic surgery on September 21, 2017 and was still healing by late October, BUT sex was uber painful and crampy long before that surgery.
Here’s a little tracker on my sex pain, Vuva usage, and my thoughts:
Oct. 16: had sex (me on top) and pain during sex was a 6 out of 10. Afterward, my cramps were a 3-6 out of 10 and lasted for an hour and a half.
Oct. 29: had sex (me on top) and pain during sex was a 6 out of 10. No cramping.
Nov. 7: I began using IntiMD dilators (just a regular dilator). Even with the largest dilator, I did not experience changes or anything. Followed instructions and felt this program was not right for me.
Nov. 10: Used my Vuva Magnetic Dilator for the first time! No pain or discomfort. Felt warm and full/fluffy (…down “there”) after 20 minutes of use…in a good way, like having soaked in a hot bath. Magnet magic? Maybe. Began to use regularly (every day or every other day).
Nov. 11: Had sex (six hours after using dilator, that weird sideways spoony-sex). Sex pain was a 2 out of 10, cramping was a 1 out of 10 and only lasted an hour.
Nov. 17: Had sex (sideways spoony-sex). Sex pain was a 1 out of 10, cramping was a 3 out of 10 and lasted a few hours.
Dec. 1: Had sex (sideways spoony-sex and me on my stomach). Sex pain was ZERO!!!! Cramping was a 2 out of 10, and lasted about 30 minutes.
Dec. 3: Had sex (sideways spoony-sex and me on my stomach). Sex pain was a 1 out of 10, cramping was a 2 out of 10 and lasted about an hour.
Dec. 4: Had sex (me on top, my laying on my stomach, and doggy style). Sex pain was a 3 out of 10, cramping was a 2 out of 10, lasting about 30 minutes.
Dec. 14: Had sex (sideways spoony-sex). Sex pain and afterward cramping were a ZERO! Oh my god.
Dec. 22: Had sex (sideways spoony-sex). Sex pain and afterward cramping were a ZERO! Again!!
Dec. 24: Had sex (me on top). Sex pain and afterward cramping were a ZERO!!!
Then I took a break from using my Vuva dilators due to the holidays…bad idea:
Jan. 4: Had sex (doggy style). Sex pain was a 7 out of 10, cramping was a 3 out of 10, lasting about 30 minutes. Vowed to renew Vuva usage!! We’ve also since realized that doggy is just too deep for my nifty anatomy (I have a septated canal and two cervix) so we stick to less-penetrative positions now.
Jan. 19: Had sex (standing, from behind). Sex pain and cramping were a zero!
Jan. 29: Had sex (standing, from behind). Sex pain and cramping were a zero!
Feb. 23: Had sex (standing, from behind). Sex pain and cramping were a zero!
March 7: Had sex (missionary, and sideways spoony-sex). Sex pain was a 3 out of 10 and cramping was a 3 out of 10, which lasted into the next morning. I had to take a Tylenol PM due to the pain. It was also the day after my period ended, so things may have still been tender.
March 12: Had sex (me on top). Sex pain was a zero, but cramping afterward was a 2 out of 10, which lasted about an hour.
That’s the extent of my tracking our sexual encounters and pain. We went from having sex maybe once every month or two to multiple times per month! I felt like I was getting the “old me” back! I was far more confident, less scared (although still a bit scared…), and very grateful. And I even instigated several of our sexual encounters. Woohoo!
Whether it was the magnets in the Vuva dilators, or the placebo affect making me feel better, or having recovered more fully from my September surgery (but remember, I did have this pain prior to surgery), or whatever – I’m grateful.
I must be honest – I haven’t used my Vuva dilators since March because life has been hectic and I haven’t set aside 20-30 minutes of my day. I’ve been experiencing minimal pain with sex once more, and very minimal cramping. But guess what? After typing up my log today, it has renewed by desire to pick the program back up.
I am so grateful to Tara for the products. And her support and encouragement. If her products can help other women have less pain, I think that’s wonderful! If you’d like to look deeper into Vuva Magnetic Dilators, the idea behind them, the instructions, the testimonials, or even purchase a set yourself, please check out their page.