A New Lube! Bring on the Sex!!!

Chiavare 5ml

I’ve learned a fun “side effect” of blogging is sometimes people write you and offer to send you stuff if you’ll write a review. WHAT?!?  Well, it happens.  And I agree with it as long as the person or company understands that my review will be unbiased, and it may be negative.  I’m gonna be honest!

Why am I telling you this? Because it’s happened again…and this time…with luuuuuube! Yes!!!  And not just any lube…an all-natural lube created by a woman who HAS Endometriosis.  Which, of course, makes me super duper happy to support our not-so-little Endo Community.   And it’s called Chiavare Personal Moisturizer.

Anyway, on with the review!  (Mom…I know you’re reading this; you may want to turn away now or risk blushing!)

Back in early January, I received an email from Kaylyn Easton, who also has Stage IV Endometriosis.  She was hoping to tackle the stigmas of female health and sexual activity and bring something positive and beneficial to our lives.  And she has created an all-natural, chemical free, vegan, gluten-free, non-GMO, hypoallergenic, and edible (if that’s your thing) “personal moisturizer.”

I’m just gonna keep calling it a lube, but when you read the ingredients, you’ll come to understand why many customers also use it in other ways.

Okay, I’ll stop teasing and tell you what’s in it.  You ready?

  1. Coconut Oil,
  2. Almond Oil,
  3. Vitamin E,
  4. Grapeseed Oil,
  5. Sunflower Seed Oil; and,
  6. Evening Primrose Oil.IMG_2015.JPG

And…that’s it.  I’m no doctor, but I’m not sure people with a nut allergy should use this.  If you’re curious, you may want to email the company and ask…

I like to think of myself as a connoisseur of sexual lubricants.  I’ve tried soooo many different ones and had yet to find one that myself and my partner both liked.  “This one’s too sticky, this one’s stinky, this one wears off quickly, this one burns, this one gets chunky” – a whole gambit of negativity.

So, I had my doubts about Chiavare just because I hadn’t been able to find a favorite lube before…and I still had yet to tell my husband any of this.  So, the day it arrived, I tore open the package, rubbed a little on my finger and smooshed it around.  Initial thoughts: It’s smooth, odorless, wasn’t sticky, and it tasted good.  Chiavare came in this beautiful, discreet little 5ml black bottle, so, I plopped it on my nightstand corner to well…corner…my unsuspecting husband later that evening.

But, alas, he wasn’t feeling well.

So, I wrote Ms. Easton and asked if it would be safe with toys.  Her response? Basically, avoid latex condoms or toys.  Oil-based anything will likely destroy any latex-based products, but luckily for me, I have a latex allergy and my favorite toy is silicon.  Which led me to another question: can I use it with non-latex condoms?  Yep.  If you’re like me, this lube is safe with a non-latex condom.   The hubby and I aren’t trying to make babies, so we still wrap up every time.

So, the next day I gave it a go solo.  Again, I had my doubts.  I few pumps of the clear lube onto the head of my toy, smooshed it around with a bit of flair, and (well, you don’t need to know the rest).  Do know, however, that it was wonderful.  Slick, smooth, warmed up quickly to my body temperature, never got sticky or glumpy.  It was a wonderful experience.  As usual, though, wash all your toys afterward!  Ew…

It was a few weeks later before my husband and I were able to give the lube a human-to-human test.  He had no idea it was coming.  And the second I warmed a bit of lube in my hand and applied to…well, he and his Jimmy Hat, he instantly commented, “Ooooh, that’s a really good lube!” Again, sparing you the details of the act itself, I wasn’t disappointed.  And neither was he!  As we lay in bed aftward, he again commented on how much he liked the lube.  I explained it was new, where it came from, and what it was made of.  He’s never liked or commented positively on any of our prior lubes.  And this one he couldn’t say enough about how much he enjoyed it.

About a week later, the opportunity presented itself once more. Hubba hubba!  This time, though, instead of going in straight for the Deed itself, I wanted to treat him to a bit of a hand job (for lack of a better term? No offense intended to anyone).  Again, he loved the lube, but the only issue I had with it was during the hand job the lube soaked into his…uh…um….(you know)…so I had to reapply it a few times.  But once we moved on to the Horizontal Mambo, smooth as silk and never dried up.

Pairing this lube along with a few sexual positions that lessen the pain with penetration, sex is once more an enjoyable endeavor for me.  And for us.  And I cannot express how incredible that is.  My old lubes are now in the trash…nasty glompy chemical sticky things.

Despite the fact that my husband’s flesh devours the lube during a hand job, the lube is fantastic!  And I LOVE the fact that it’s all natural! We have enough going on with chemical exposure in our lives and if we can reduce it just by one little thing, it’s may help.

If you’re interested in checking out Chiavare for yourself, click here!  She’s got several links about the ingredients, testimonials, different uses, and her history.  The small bottle (the one I have) is about $10.  There’s a bigger bottle, but the wee-one has lasted us nearly 2 months, and we’re not even close to empty.


I’m so grateful to Kaylyn for reaching out to me and sending me the freebie bottle.  Not only did I learn about an amazing product, but I get to support an EndoSister’s endeavors, and hope to spread the word to help others who may be looking for a good lubricant.  And I’ll be more them in the future!

I’m hooked.  My hubby’s hooked.  We’re hooked!  Thank you, Kaylyn, for making such a wonderful product!  I hope that your Endometriosis Journey continues along a positive path.

PS – these beautiful pictures were provided by Kaylyn at my request.


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